Tuesday, December 17, 2013


My niece will be turning 14 this week and we had her birthday party on Sunday. I initially bought her a book of advice on growing up as a woman, but then I feared it may come across as too preachy and took it back (opting instead for a shirt from Anthropologie). Anyway, it got me thinking of what advice I wish that the current me could have given to the 14-year-old me. So here are just a few things I wish that I could tell 14-year-old Melissa:

  • Spend less time worrying about how you look and more time focusing on developing who you are. 
  • Give people a chance. Probably the most interesting people at your school are the ones that you're ignoring because they aren't "cool" enough.
  • Don't be afraid of trying new things because you are afraid that you won't be good at them. How will you ever know if you don't try?
  • Focus less on what other people THINK should make you happy and much more on what ACTUALLY makes you happy.
  • Stop pretending to like stuff that you don't really like because your friends do. It's a huge waste of time and energy. 
  • Be nicer. Just in general, be much nicer!
  • Don't be in such a hurry to grow up. Enjoy this time! 
  • It's ok to make mistakes - just learn from them. Oh and try not to repeat them.
  • And, finally, find something you are good at and pursue it - whatever it may be. You have your own unique talents and interests and it doesn't matter if they make sense to anyone else. 

I'm sure 14-year-old me wouldn't have appreciated it, but there you have it...


  1. this is sweet- you should give it to her!
    so true that we should have known those things, but i guess figuring them out is all part of growing up! :)

    the well-traveled wife ♥

  2. This advice is really beautiful and I think it applies to all ages and both sexes. The boys are very lucky with the parents and extended family they have. :-)

  3. Hey, very nice, Hon. You are wise well beyond your years. :) I agree with Emi--find some cool parchment paper, write it and make it a scroll, and pass it along! Ri will appreciate it.

  4. That's wonderful advice my sweet daughter. You had a few rough edges for awhile, but you sure turned out be the nicest person ever. Always be kind to yourself, you're one of the best of the best.


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